Yes, we offer phone, Skype or in-person sessions designed to get to the heart of the issue. Many times, a single session is enough to generate a major breakthrough. You can contact us at (403) 244-0455 or email info@markwolynn.com.
In this work, we examine the tragic events affecting us and our children. Looking back three generations, we ask: Who died early? Who left? Who was abandoned, isolated or excluded from the family? Who was adopted or who gave a child up for adoption? Who died in childbirth? Who had a stillborn birth or an abortion? Who was murdered or murdered someone? Who committed suicide? Who suffered in war? Who died in or participated in the holocaust? Who profited from another’s loss? Who was wrongly accused? Who was jailed or institutionalized? Who had a physical, emotional or mental disability? Who had a significant relationship prior to getting married, and what happened? Who experienced an early separation from a mother? And so on. Most importantly, we see how tragic events have deeply impacted our families. We see how our parents and grandparents struggled. We ask: Are we struggling similarly? The imprint of these events can become the blueprint for future generations.
That depends on many variables. Is he close with his mother? Is he close with his father? Is he closer with his mother than his father? Had he ever been separated from his mother as a young boy? Did anything happen in utero or when he was an infant that interrupted his bond with his mother? Is his father in the picture? Is his mother anxious? Is his father anxious? Was there ever a great tragedy in the family that could not be grieved?
Let’s say a father loses his father when he is twelve in a tragic accident. Years later, when his own son reaches twelve or thereabouts, this father begins to distance himself from his family. Perhaps he has an affair or separates from his wife. Whatever the case, he repeats the absence of his father.
In an attempt to soothe the sad feelings of his mother, his son begins to carry his mother’s anger toward the father. This creates a conflict in the boy, as both parents are needed for the boy to feel whole and develop in his masculinity. This boy now begins to feel anxious. Perhaps he develops panic attacks, or he becomes defiant or oppositional, or he begins failing at school.
Solutions rarely rest in the hands of our children alone. For therapy to be successful, we must look at the entire system and not focus solely on the child as the problem. Even if contact with the father is not possible, a solution is attainable when the larger system is brought into focus.
In a session, there are specific interventions we can accomplish with the boy alone, with the mother alone, with the father alone, with the boy and his mother, or with the boy and his father. Often a single intervention that enables the child to feel that he doesn’t have to choose between his parents can be what’s needed for the child to reduce his anxiety and reestablish his composure.
A Family Constellation can be a one-time, therapeutic intervention that does not necessarily require ongoing therapy.
Anyone who struggles with illness, depression, anxiety, panic disorders, obsessive thoughts, fears, phobias, guilt, bi-polar disorder, persistent anger, lingering grief, meaninglessness, psychosomatic diseases, asthma, colitis, chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, IBS, reproductive health issues, failed relationships, financial difficulties, family violence, addictions, OCD, ADHD, ADD, PTSD, could benefit from receiving a family constellation.
