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IT DIDN’T START WITH YOU: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle (Viking, 2016) shows how the traumas of our parents, grandparents, and even great grandparents can live in our anxious words, fears, behaviors and unexplained physical symptoms—what scientists are now calling “secondary PTSD.”

This unconscious “bequest” can disrupt our relationships, limit our success and compromise our health and wellbeing. Unable to identify the source as belonging in a previous generation, we often assume that the problem stems from our own life experience. Compelling, new scientific evidence, however, is now encouraging us to explore the traumas in our family history. IT DIDN’T START WITH YOU documents the latest epigenetic research explaining how traumatic memories are biologically transmitted through chemical changes in DNA.

IT DIDN’T START WITH YOU leads readers through a process of self-discovery and healing, helping them identify the emotionally-charged language of their worries and fears that link to unresolved traumas in their childhood or family history. Through provocative questions, case studies and a series of language-centered and body-centered exercises, readers are guided to become detectives, mining their family history to unearth the source of their issues. Ultimately, readers learn how to convert old, fearful images into ones that bring strength and healing. IT DIDN’T START WITH YOU is the first book that offers step-by-step guidance to help people break the cycle of destructive inherited family patterns.

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